#7: How to Maintain When Challenges, Conflict or Barriers Present

Two weeks after receiving the assignment to write a letter to the me who first came in for counseling, we met again, and I read her my letter. The conversation that followed felt so good. I felt so good.

And as per our usual, she gave me a new homework assignment at the end of our call. This time, she asked me to write how I plan to maintain this mindset when challenges, conflict or barriers present themselves. 

In the day or two following, I wrote my response. Unknowingly, this writing prompt would come right on time. 

Later that week, I received a call that a very special person and friend I'd known half my life had passed. I felt so many emotions as I thought of his beautiful family, whom I love dearly, and I read and re-read my words many times over. It was no coincidence that the timing of this particular assignment happened when it did.

I'm forever grateful for signs, synchronicities and being surrounded by people who uplift, inspire, and encourage me to be my best self.

And with that, I share my thoughts on how I maintain peace in any situation:

As sure as the sun rises in the east and sets in the west, there will come days when challenges, contrast and barriers present themselves. In these moments, you will always have the choice of how you respond. Allow your faith in the divine to guide you. 

Lead from the heart. From a place of pure consciousness. Trust in the timing of the universe and the beauty of the unknown. You need not fear, darling, for your purpose is far greater than any perceived setback. 

Every time you experience a shift in your energetic field as a result of your emotions towards a particular person, place or situation, revisit everything you know, and put it into practice. Become aware of the feelings, without reacting. After all, darling, you are not your feelings.

Remember that emotions are energy in motion. They are a real-time navigation system letting you know how close or how far you are to your authentic self. Sit with the emotions, and use your breath to move that energy through your chakras and tap into the quantum field and the infinite potential you have as a conscious creator. 

Relax. Breathe in that life-giving prana. Feel exhilarated as you hold it inside you, allowing it to fill your body with fresh new energy. Free and clear your mind. Exhale it all out. You are here. In this generous present moment. A true gift to be grateful for. 

My love, please understand that it is in these times of grief, despair, uncertainty, and contrast that you are being given the greatest opportunity for growth and expansion.

Energy flows where attention goes, therefore it is simple to see why you must continue to maintain a positive and optimistic outlook and attitude. Because what you focus on grows and multiplies, so focus only on the good and all you have to be grateful for. And remember, when you love what you have, you have everything you need. 

By this point in your journey, you are skilled in the art of letting go, letting be, and going with the flow. You know you are connected to everything, and attached to nothing. And you know that needing nothing, attracts everything. You also know (have the perspective) that everything happens for a reason. You know this, my dear, you do. 

This is your reminder to release expectations. To allow the universe to surprise you. And because you understand the Universal Law of Flow, you know that you must also release the old to make room for the new. 

Meditation anesthetizes the analytical mind. Continue to practice this every day. Sink into the infinite blackness that is the divine quantum field, and connect to your source. Become no one, no thing, no where, in no time. This is the sweet spot. This is where your true magic can always be found. Energy moving energy. Light. Transmuting the pain into love. Into something greater than yourself. The universe always responds to the vibrations you’re putting out. Remember this, my love. Remember these words. 

Remember all the words you’ve written over the past 4 years. Take time to go back and read them as many times as you need. And you will find that you fall in love with yourself and your path all over again. You have documented this journey for a reason. For times like this. You have poured your heart and soul into your mission so that you could inspire others by sharing your truth fearlessly. You were not created in jest or at random but purposefully and to some great end. 

You won’t always understand why things happen the way they do, darling, and that is life. Your job is not to understand but to accept. Change the things you can, by all means, love. But accept that which you cannot. Embrace all that is with gratitude for the significant role it played in your life, and gracefully let go. 

My dear, with death comes rebirth. Remember that nothing is ever lost, it is simply transformed, because energy can neither be created nor destroyed, and everything is energy. 

Change is inevitable. Just as the seasons must change, so must the seasons of our life. Continue your path of evolution, enlightenment and knowledge. And always, always, always come back to your center. Your True Self. Practice pranayama, yoga, meditation and movement. Daily. Keep going, keep growing, keep learning new things. 

And my dear, should you feel the heaviness of lower vibrational emotions weighing you down, repeat the mantra “this too shall pass”. Ride the wave. Allow the feelings to wash over you as your feet are rooted firmly into the ground. When the winds of change blow hard, you bend so you won’t break. 

And it is wise to remember that you get another hand soon after you fold. So relax your shoulders, unclench your jaw, and breathe. You were made for this. 

I believe in you. 

You are blessed. You are loved. You have value. You are important. You are worthy. You are enough. You are perfectly imperfect. Exactly as you are, right here, right now. You are a masterpiece and a work in progress, simultaneously. And that, my love, is a wonderful place to BE.